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The 5 Guideposts to Connection: A mindfulness based online workshop for couples

 

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The 5 Guideposts to Connection: A mindfulness based online workshop for couples

Should your relationship be this difficult? Yes, but probably not for the reasons you are experiencing. A healthy relationship asks us to show up for our partner, to go from a me-centered way of thinking to a we-centered way of thinking, to communicate from the heart and to take responsibility for what we say and do. Unfortunately, no one teaches a class on on how to create a healthy relationship in highschool or college. The 5 Guideposts to Connection is that class.

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Try my program risk free for 14 days. If you are not totally satisfied, you’ll get your money back. Give this course a trial run for the first 2 weeks. If you don’t like it or feel it is not a fit for you, I will refund your money.

What you get

  • 7 week mindfulness based couples course

  • 7 part workbook

  • Private Facebook Group

  • Open Q and A support webinar held monthly

  • 100% money back guarantee

"The tools lair gave us worked in real life situations. this program saved our marriage."
-Toni M., New York, NY

YOU WILL LEARN HOW TO:

  • Build or rebuild trust

  • Stop recurring arguments

  • Communicate, even about tough topics

  • Stop the finger pointing

  • Resolve old resentments

  • Rekindle the romance

  • Make your relationship fun again

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Every relationship meets adversity at some point. You need the tools to navigate the rough times and this course gives you those tools.

 

WEEK ONE

GUIDEPOST ONE: MINDFULNESS

This week we dive into Mindfulness and learn to be truly present with our partner. The latest research shows that the practice of mindfulness helps us regulate our emotions, effectively getting us out of our knee jerk response to one another. In week one, we will cultivate the ability to stop cyclical arguments while learning to relate to each other with kindness, acceptance and compassion.

 

WEEK TWO

GUIDEPOST TWO: PARTS OF SELF

Who shows up in your relationship most often? We all have parts of self, the sides of our personalities (inner defender, critic, wounded child) that come out when triggered. This week we find out that good communication cannot happen through the shutdown protective parts of us. In order to make a heart-centered connection, you must train a sharp eye on the part of you that comes to play in your relationship.

 

WEEK THREE

GUIDEPOST THREE: THE NARRATIVE

The Narrative, that little story you tell in your head about your partner, is the cure or the cancer to an ailing relationship. Narratives pool inside of us and become concretized belief systems. Left unchecked, these stories can infect how we see, consider and love our partners. Reauthored mindfully, the narrative about your partner becomes a love story.

WEEK FOUR

GUIDEPOST FOUR: CHOOSING

Choosing your partner is not a marriage proposal, a wedding in front of loved ones or a card and flowers on Valentine's Day. Truly choosing your partner happens in the little moments of life, when no one else is watching. This week, we find out how important it is to know what makes our partner’s feel loved. When we do those things, we send the message, I pick you and I choose you. The practice of choosing our partners builds trust and leads to deep intimacy.

 

WEEK FIVE

GUIDEPOST FIVE: PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

Admitting we are wrong feels like surrender, like we are giving up ground, but in actuality, we are taking the higher ground. In our final guidepost, we learn the skill of taking personal responsibility for all that we do and say to our partners. This practice is the cornerstone to a truly mature relationship. It sends the message that the space between us is safe and that I love you more than I like being right. When we are courageous enough to take personal responsibility, we stop the finger pointing and are able to connect to our partner in the most difficult times.

WEEKS SIX & SEVEN

PRACTICAL

In the Homework for Weeks Six and Seven, you and your partner will continue your personal journey and integrate the Five Guideposts into your relationship. Although the videos are done, the practice is not. Continuing the program allows you to take advantage of the latest research in neuroscience. Mindfulness based programs, like The 5 Guideposts to Connection, have been scientifically proven to help change your habits with one another by creating new neural pathways in the brain. The research suggests that with just 6 to 8 weeks of practice we can rewrite old patterns and change how we think and react. This finding has far reaching implications for those couples who are locked in old patterns and who have lost their connection to one another.

 AVAILABLE ON ALL DEVICES  Access the course from your desktop, laptop, tablet or mobile device easily. 

AVAILABLE ON ALL DEVICES

Access the course from your desktop, laptop, tablet or mobile device easily. 

ACCESS FOR YOUR PARTNER

Each course purchase grants access for two people. 

Payment plan

Choose a payment plan that works for you. 

WORK AT YOUR OWN PACE

You can work through The Five Guideposts at your own pace and in the comfort of your own space.

support materials

With purchase of the course, you will get lifetime access to the eBooks and support materials.

Email support

If you run into roadblocks or have questions, you can email Lair for support (limits apply).

FEEDBACK FOR LAIR AND THE FIVE GUIDEPOSTS TO CONNECTION


He’s right, they don't teach this stuff in high school but they should. Lair taught us how to be in an adult-mature relationship. I can’t say enough about his approach. Tammy Tomlinson, Columbia, SC

Lair’s approach is inspiring. We learned about the 5 Guideposts to Connection 5 years ago and we still to use them everyday.
Tina and Rafael Gutierrez, Asheville, NC

We would not be together if not for these practices. Eric and Susan Wilmer, L.A. CA

We both had sought out legal counsel to discuss divorce. This was our last shot and I'm happy to say it worked.  Stephanie and Thomas Styles, Hong Kong, China

If your marriage is in trouble, Lair can help. Like he says, the practices are simple just not always easy, but they helped us. Tad and Simone Mackie, Seattle, WA

We are the couple we always wanted to be because of Lair’s practices. Peter L. and Reed T. NY, NY

Are you ready to take responsibility for your relationship?

The Five Guideposts to Connection can help you build a long-lasting, healthy and happy partnership with the one you love.